All Art, like all Love, has its roots in Heartache.
Solitude
Laugh, and the world laughs with you;
Weep, and you weep alone.
For the sad old earth must borrow it's mirth,
But has trouble enough of its own.
Sing, and the hills will answer;
Sigh, it is lost on the air.
The echoes bound to a joyful sound,
But shrink from voicing care.
Rejoice, and men will seek you;
Grieve, and they turn and go.
They want full measure of all your pleasure,
But they do not need your woe.
Be glad, and your friends are many;
Be sad, and you lose them all.
There are none to decline your nectared wine,
But alone you must drink life's gall.
Feast, and your halls are crowded;
Fast, and the world goes by.
Succeed and give, and it helps you live,
But no man can help you die.
There is room in the halls of pleasure
For a long and lordly train,
But one by one we must all file on
Through the narrow aisles of pain.
For the rejected
For those who had watched 'The Phantom of the Opera', we will probably feel quite sorry for the phantom. He is ostracized by society, and he seeks love, but finds only rejection in the one he loves. I shall not be a spoiler, and tell you what happened, but I shall just tell you that the Phantom did not win Christine hand in the end. However, he loved Christine to the very end, for at Christine's grave many years later, we find a rose and the ring of the Phantom. Touching ending, it made me almost want to weep for the phantom.
If Christine had given the Phantom a chance, an unconditional chance, we might have a different ending, instead of the Phantom condemned to live a life of loneliness. All it might have required is Christine's one chance, and both her life, and the Phantom's life, would have been significantly different.
Back to the subject of my post, what I want to discuss is this one chance.
For the rejected, do we not often wish that we were just given that one chance to prove our devotion? This one chance might have meant alot to both parties, and much of one's life might be significantly different. Just as we wished that Christine had given the Phantom a chance to love her, and we wished that Christine had recipocated his love, we, too often wish that we were given that one chance that has been declined to us, for us to prove our devotion.
How ironic that in order for love to devlope, the basic requirements seems to be that there is aleadry mutual attraction. Take, for example, that if I were to ask someone out, and she, unfortunately, is not in the least attraced to me, she would then say " I'm sorry, but we are not meant for each other", and hence, it is quite impossible for a relationship to devlope; from what to devlope from? So does it mean that for us to be "meant for each other" we must be, at least be attracted to each other? Does it also mean that two persons were not made for each other, simply because they are not attracted to each other? If a chance had been given to one party, would the situation be different?
I'm sorry if im being vague, but I'm refraining from using a lot of words, or I will sound more whiny than I aleadry am. Anyway, read on.
If you are a girl, I say to you this- If a boy should ask you out, he probably has to muster alot of courage to even raise the topic. It s not a on-the-moment impromptu kind of thing. He would have consulted all his peer if it would have been a wise move, spend many sleepless nights thinking of the 'right' approach, and many hours wondering what your reaction would be like. When he askes you out, much is on stake-hopes, dreams, pride. When he askes you out, it is a BIG thing to him, so please, do not just brush him off without consideration. Each proposal should be weighted out carefully, and not a 'no' on the spur of the moment. It would be doing a disservice to both you and the poor boy. In addition, should you ever change your mind, you will be hard tasked to get a proposal from him again. A boy knows when enough is enough. When you say no, he will most likely not want to risk his pride and everything else on what he thinks is a lost cause again. Hence, please weight out each proposal carefully. Sleep on it, think about it, chew on it, and make a wise decision. And trust me, rejection hurts.
Do I sound bitter? Perhaps I am feeling bitter, but let me continune.
Too much of love has been stereotyped today. On television, we see love blossoming out of nothing, like two arch-enemies falling in love. Almost impossible. Michele Cheow won't even look at me today, and to have her talk to me face to face would have made me the happiest person on Earth for many days. But the point is, don't talk to me of love developing between two parties aleadry attracted to each other. There is no room for such development- the space is aleadry occupied by infatuation. Such devlopement takes place when you removes the facade and love the person for his flaws, or rather, love his flaws, then there would be a development of understanding.
I recently met a girl who tells me that she had once liked a guy, but he had then turned her down. Only recently, he changed his mind, only to discover that the girl had changed hers as well. Ah well, you cant expect people to wait for you forever to discover what you want, you know. People move on, and they will try to put the past behind them, and find someone new. Now consider, if that boy had weighed out his options carefully initally, and discovering then what he only discovered how, both parties would have been better off. Now i can only imagine the hurt the girl is feeling- as i said, to be rejected is painful,but now he pain has to be revived through the insensitivity of the boy. Somethings, you have only ONE CHANCE. Treasure it.
I find it rather ironic that I can be good friends to girls, but make lousy 'better-than-good-friends to them. Perhaps that because I'm too much like a girl. After all, a girl can have good girl friends, but she will normally not date a girl.
Okay, the last paragraph was meant to be a joke. Now let me continune my discussion.
When you give someone a chance, you are doing everyone a big favor. You help the person who proposed realize if your are really made for each other, as well as yourself see if he has the qualities you are looking out for, and by that i do not mean he looks like 'whoever girls find nice looking nowadays'. It is an eye opener for everyone.
Finally, on my last note, I want to make a pledge and a promise.
I pledge that i will treasure you
I pledge that my loyalty is true
I pledge my commitment
I am grateful for the chance you have given to me
While i cannot promise that you will be happy with me, I promise to do my best to make you happy.
I promise that I would never beak your heart, but I am perpared for you to break mine anytime you wish, as long as it finds you greater happiness.
I realize that love is not everything there is to life, but iI am willing to give all my life to pursue love.
P.s. My final piece of writing on michele cheow is under way. Soon, I shall embark on a new chapter in my writing, more on life and death. Check back soon and have a nice day, and hopefully be given a chance to pursue your heart's desires.
Touched and enlightened and bitterWongWenPu 24May 2007
posted @ 1:26 PM
